Quit doing what you love and love what you are doing

​Quit doing what you love and love what you are doing
The worst piece of advice given is “do what you love and you will never work another day in your life.”  That is about as hokey and wrong as any advice received.  Toss it.  Burn it.  Shove the book in which you read it in the outdoor fireplace over Christmas.
Now, how can we cure that thought?  Just because we think it does not mean it is true.  It just ain’t true.  Let’s put a little cognitive behavior therapy through remodeling against that thought.
What evidence do you have that it is true?  Well, my friend told me he loves his job and it does not feel like work.  And there is this philosophy self-help book I read that was full of statistics on job satisfaction.  And I really am working hard and enjoying it less, so maybe if I changed to something else I would feel better.
What evidence do you have that is it not true?  I love what I do.  All my friends tell me they love what they do.  And none of us is really happy, content, or satisfied.  We always want more, work harder, lose out on family fun, and are generally just as depressed as a group as anyone out there without a job at all.
What would happen if you changed the thought just a little bit?  Love what you do and you enjoy your work more.  Is that more real and reasonable?  Of course.  It is more true, because it works.  Love what you do.  Quit looking over that other fence and comparing your car, home, toys, spouse, children’s accomplishments, and size of income.  Just quit iti.  Love what you do. 
Russell Cornwell built an entire university on a story.  In the story he taught one principle.  Mine the diamonds at your feet before you run off looking for a better opportunity.  Yep.  It works.
Reinhold Niebuhr unintentionally revolutionized the recovery industry by writing a prayer for a Sunday morning that we call the Serenity Prayer.  One line in particular that most don’t read is “Enjoying each moment”.  Another is “that I might be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with Him in the next.”  In other words, get about the business of living the moment you have to the max.  Love it.  Mine the diamonds at your feet.
There are millions of people saying, “If I could just make money doing what I love, I would be happy.”  It is a lie.  Don’t buy that lie.  Love what you do.  Get busy finding joy and value in the task in front of you. 
So here are two steps to love what you do even if you hate it today.

1. Set a goal to find joy in your job and integrate more of your personality into the performance.  J. C. Penny “Give me a stock clerk with a goal, and I will give you a man who will make history. Give me a man without a goal, and I will give you a stock clerk.”  Goals govern growth, but irrational, unachievable, and ill-considered goals just get you miserable.  This is about having a great Christmas vacation and heading back to the job with more vitality and vigor.
2. Look for the 25% increase.  So far, I’ve not been proven wrong on this item.  Every thing that is can be improved 25% and that includes the item I just improved.  Marriage. Parenting. Community service.  Business operations.  Hobby skills.  Golf game.  Set a goal to improve and enjoy 25% more than you are today.  Just do that and notice the increase spring in your step.

Okay, this newsletter is about RESILIENCY!  It is about Life Skills, Parenting Pizzazz, and Conquer Your Anger Take Back Control of Your Future.  At SOLUMCommunity.net, we are focused on fixing fractured families.  We all have a little crack in our foundation and need some tuck and pointing work done.  So let’s do it with aplomb.
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